Cuprins
“I couldn’t make a bond with my son”
“During a consultation with my general practitioner, I told him about stomach pains. I was 23 years old. As a precaution, she prescribed me a complete assessment, with detection of beta-HCG. For me it didn’t seem necessary because I was settled and without any simptom. Following this blood test, my doctor contacted me so that I could come as quickly as possible, because she had received my test results and there was something. I went to this consultation, and that’s whenshe told me about my pregnancy… And that my rate was quite high. I had to phone the nearest maternity ward, who was waiting for me for a scanare caz de urgență. This announcement struck me like a bomb in my head. I did not realize what was happening to me, because with my husband we did not have the project to start a family immediately, because I did not have a permanent job. Arrive at Spitalul, I was taken care of right away by the ginecolog for that ultrasound, still thinking it wasn’t real. The moment the doctor showed me the picture, I realized that I was not in the early stages of pregnancy but in a fairly advanced stage. The blow was the moment when he told me that I was 26 weeks pregnant! The world has collapsed around me: a pregnancy is prepared in 9 months, and not in 3 and a half months!
He called me “mum” on his 2nd birthday
Four days after this announcement, my belly is out, and baby took up all the space he needed. The preparations had to be done very quickly, because as in the case of negarea sarcinii, I had to be followed in a CHU. Between hospitalizations, everything had to be done quickly. My son was born at 34 SA, so a month before term. The moment of her birth was the happiest day of my life, despite all the anxieties that haunted me: if I was going to be a “real mother”, etc. Days have passed with this beautiful baby at home… but I just couldn’t bond with my son. Despite my love for him, I still had this feeling of distance, which I still can’t describe today. On the other hand, my husband has created a close relationship with his son. The first time my son called me he didn’t say “mom” but called me by my first name : maybe he felt that I had a malaise in me ,. And the first time he called me “mom” was when he turned 2. The years have passed and now, and things have changed: I managed to create this relationship with my son, perhaps following the separation from his dad. But I know today that I was worried for nothing and that my son loves me. “Emma
“I never felt the baby in my womb”
« I found out I was pregnant an hour before giving birth. am avut contracţii, so my friend drove me to the hospital. What was our surprise when the emergency responder told us announced my pregnancy ! Not to mention his very guilty words, not admitting that we didn’t know about it. And yet it was true: I never thought for a minute that I was pregnant. I threw up a lot but, for the doctor, it was right gastroenterită. I had also put on a little weight, but as anyway I tend to yoyo side kilos (not to mention the fact that we nibble all the time in restaurants…), I did not worry. And above all, I never felt the baby in my womb, and I still had my period! In the family, only one person then confessed to us that they suspected something, without ever telling us, thinking that we wanted to keep it a secret. This child, we did not want it right away, but in the end it was a great gift. Today, Anne is 15 months old and the three of us are perfectly happy, we are a family. “
“In the morning, I still had a flat stomach! “
“I found out that I was pregnant when I was at 4 month of pregnancy. One Sunday, I felt a bit uneasy when I went to see my partner who was playing a soccer match. I was 27 and he was 29. It was the first time this had happened to me. The next day, talking about my weekend, I told a colleague about my discomfort who urged me to go for a test de sange, because her sister was having the same discomfort while pregnant. I replied that it was impossible for me to be pregnant since I was taking the pill. She insisted so much that I ended up going that afternoon. In the evening, I went to collect my results and there, to my great surprise, the laboratory told me that I was pregnant. I came home crying, not knowing how to tell my mate. For me it was rather a pleasant surprise, but I suspected that it would be more complicated for him. I was right, because he immediately spoke to me about abortion without even asking my opinion. We decided to first see how long I was pregnant. Having been to my gynecologist a month before, I thought I was in the early stages of pregnancy. The next day, my doctor ordered a more detailed blood test and an ultrasound. When I saw the image on the screen, I burst into tears (of surprise and emotion), I who expected to see “a larva” I found myself with a real baby under my eyes. , who wriggled her little arms and legs. It was moving so much that the radiologist had difficulty taking measurements to estimate the date of conception. After several checks, he informed me that I was 4 months pregnant: I was completely overwhelmed. At the same time, I was so happy to have this little life that was developing in me.
The day after the ultrasound, I left for work. In the morning I still had a flat stomach and the same evening when I came back I felt tight in my jeans : lifting my sweater, I discovered a nice little well rounded belly. Once you realize you’re pregnant, it’s amazing how quickly the belly grows. It was magic for me, but not for my partner: he was researching to get me to have an abortion in England! He wasn’t listening to my point of view and I ended up locking myself in the bathroom in tears to isolate myself. After a month he realized that he would not achieve his goals, and he decided to leave (with another).
My pregnancy has not been rosy every day and I passed most of the exams on my own, but I think it made the bond between my son and me even stronger. I spoke to him a lot. My pregnancy went by super quickly: it was surely due to the first 4 months that I did not live! But on the one hand, I avoided the boală de dimineata. Fortunately, for the birth, my mother was present by my side, so I lived it in a serene way. But I admit that the last night at the clinic, when I realized that my son’s father would never come to see him, it was hard to digest. Harder than denial of pregnancy. Today, I have a beautiful three and a half year old boy, and this is my greatest achievement. ” ajun
“I gave birth the day after I found out”
“3 years ago, following severe pain in the stomach and a medical opinion, I did a pregnancy test. POSITIVE. The anguish, the fear, and the announcement to daddy… It was a shock, after barely a year of relationship. I was 22 and he was 29. The night has passed: impossible to sleep. I felt great pains, my belly rounding, and movements inside! In the morning I called my sister to take me to the hospital, because my partner had told her work of the situation. Arrived at the hospital, I was placed in a boxing box. 1 hour 30 minutes alone waiting for results to be told how many months I was. And suddenly, I see a gynecologist, who tells me thatI am indeed pregnant, but especially since I am about to give birth : I have passed the term, I am at 9 months and 1 week… Everything is accelerating. We have no clothes or equipment. We call our family, which reacts in the most beautiful way. My sister brings me a suitcase with neutral clothes, because we did not know the sex of the baby, impossible to see. An immense solidarity has started up around us. The same day, at 14:30 p.m., I entered the delivery room. At 17 p.m. start of work, and at 30 p.m., I had in my arms a beautiful little boy weighing 18 kg and 13 cm … Everything went wonderfully in the maternity ward. We are happy, fulfilled, and everyone is caring. Three days passed, and we returned home …
When we got home, it was as if everything had been planned: the bed, the bottles, the clothes and everything that went with it was there… Family and friends had everything prepared for us! Today, my son is 3 years old, he is a magnificent child full of energy, with whom we have an extraordinary relationship, who shares everything with us. I am so close to my son that I never leave him, except for work and school. Our relationship and our story remains my best story… I won’t hide anything from her when she arrived: she’s just a wanted baby… but not programmed! The hardest part in this situation is not to deny: the hardest part are the judgments of the people around. » Laura
Those stomach pains were contractions!
“At the time I was just 17 years old. I had an affair with a man already engaged elsewhere. We always had safe sex with condoms. I wasn’t on the pill. I have always been well adjusted. I was living my little teenage life (smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol in the evening…). And it all went on for months and months …
It all started overnight from Saturday to Sunday. I had severe stomach aches that lasted for hours and hours. I didn’t want to tell my parents about it, telling myself that this pain was going to stop. Then it continued with a pain in the lower back. It was Sunday evening. I still didn’t say anything but the more it went, the worse it got. So I told my parents about it. They asked me since when was it painful. I replied: “Since yesterday”. So they took me to the doctor on duty. I was still in pain. The doctor examines me. He didn’t see anything abnormal (!). He wanted to give me an injection to relieve me. My parents didn’t want to. They decided to take me to the emergency room. At the hospital, the doctor felt my stomach, and he saw that I was in great pain. He decided to give me a vaginal examination. It was 1:30 in the morning. He told me: “You absolutely have to go to the delivery room”. There, I experienced a big cold shower: I was in the process of giving birth. He takes me to the room. My child was born at 2 a.m. on Monday. So all these pains during all this time were contractions!
Am avut câteva nici un semn for 9 months: no nausea, not even felt the baby move, nothing. I wanted to give birth under X. But luckily my parents were there for me and my baby. Otherwise today I would not have had the chance to have met the first love of my life: my son. I am immensely grateful to my parents. »EAKM