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Fanteziile sexuale: modul în care acestea ajută la îmbunătățirea relațiilor
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Each sex has a tendency, both enjoy their sexual inventions, regardless of sexual orientation
Having sex on the street, using whips or handcuffs in the sexual act or ejaculating on the partner: sexual fantasies are part of a healthy sexual life and every human being has one.
These fantasies can be inspired by an image, something you hear or something you read, and in addition to facilitating pleasure, they can be really useful when the stress of, for example, a bad day at work seems to be blocking orgasm.
Threesomes and anal sex
Apparently, and according to several studies, women and men do not share the same fantasies. Silvia Sanz, an expert psychologist in couple relationships and author of ‘Sexamor’ (Editorial Aguilar), says that, although they are not absolute data, women «tend to fantasize more about known people, from the present or from the past», old couples or characters that they idealize, such as actors, politicians, singers, etc., and the content can vary from “being spanked, practicing sex oral o masturben, have sex in places where they can be seen, a fi forțat or even being able to become prostitutes, have lesbian relationships; to be considered irresistible to people who attract them or to have a very romantic sex in places that have erotic value.
Instead, they are seduced by the idea of having a threesome or fellatio: «The anal and oralBeing dominant in relationships or, on the contrary, having a woman submit to them, are some of the most repeated fantasies. They are excited that they take the initiative, and unusual places prevail, such as an elevator, the office or in the bathroom of a bar, “says the sexologist expert.
In addition, Silvia Sanz indicates that the fantasies of men and women are also different in approach: “Women like more to use their imagination, with erotic arguments so that they make a certain sense, and therefore contain more details.” As he explains, they are more romantic and are more driven by emotions; they are stimulated more by senses such as hearing, smell, touch and, therefore, are more elaborate. “Within the fantasies they tend to choose passive roles,” he says. However, men are more into action, more visual subjects and tend to be more focused on genital stimulation. “His fantasies are similar to porn movies: in his imagination there are not so many details, they are more graphic and to the point. There is not as much argument as in women, and in these fantasies the content of their imaginations are situations that are not socially accepted ”, he says.
But how do these fantasies help in our relationship as a couple? As Silvia Sanz tells us, they evoke situations that may not be conventional but that lead us to enhance our desire, and not only to cherish the idea of carrying them out but because “they can provoke starting a sexual relationship” simply by imagining it, from the In the same way, it can also encourage play with your partner: «In addition to turning you on, they enhance desire and increase complicity in your partner if you share them. They also enrich sexual encounters and promote creativity and sexual imagination. All this can help you improve your complicity, intimacy and desire in the relationship, “he says.
Each sex has a tendency, both enjoy their sexual inventions, regardless of sexual orientation. The ideal is to accept and explore them because they are part of each one of us. They are an erotic resource that can range from the most perverse to the most innocent. “Remember that there are no rules, everything is within your imagination and you are free to let it fly,” concludes Silvia Sanz, who in her book ‘Sexamor’ includes an extensive catalog that can help you increase your sexual creativity and enhance your desire, in addition to decipher the secrets of love and pleasure.