Kilos of pregnancy: Mélanie’s husband took some too! Story
“Six kilos, my husband gained six kilos during my pregnancy! Even today, I can’t believe it. When I told him that I was pregnant, Laurent was ecstatic, especially since we had been expecting this pregnancy for several months. First, he was super happy. And gradually, I understood that a little anguish mingled with his happiness. Nothing fancy: he was just afraid that something might happen to me and the baby. Afterwards, it calmed down.
Și, as i was reaching my third month of pregnancy it started to gain weight while he was not eating more than usual. The pounds settled mostly on her stomach. At first, I didn’t really pay attention to it, but one night it jumped out at me. I told her, laughing: “Hey, it looks like you are pregnant!” You saw the little can you have. Your belly is almost bigger than mine! He protested vigorously, but when he weighed himself, he saw that I was right… We both wondered why he was gaining weight. Perhaps he was nibbling a little more than usual, but not excessively, it seemed to us. He tried to pay attention to what he ate, but he continued to gain weight and even to have cravings… of a pregnant woman! From my sixth month especially, he sometimes had funnydesires. For example, one evening around 23 p.m., he began to have a very strong desire for ice cream with whipped cream, he who was not usually a fan of this dessert! And of course, we didn’t. The next day, I wanted to buy some, but he didn’t want it at all… Ten days later, he dreamed of swallowing apricots when it was February and he didn’t particularly like it until. here. And these were really very strong desires! For hours, he thought only of that. It was very surprising to experience. It lasted about two months, then Laurent calmed down. I didn’t feel anything: neither cravings nor strong cravings.
It was his sister who told him one day, teasing him, that he was probably having a cover-up. We vaguely knew what it was, nothing more. So, we rushed on the Internet to find out everything about this famous convent. And Laurent was relieved to see that he was not the only man to experience this situation. From the information I have been able to gather, quite a few men have physical symptoms during their partner’s pregnancy. Laurent was reassured: he was not a fairground phenomenon! From what we understood, this covade meant that he needed to show the whole earth that he, too, was going to have a child. And the originality is that he expressed it through his body.
I took it all with a lot of humor. The pounds my man was accumulating, his cravings and even his back pain that started around my 6th month of pregnancy, I was taking it well. It made me smile … His sister was not kind to him: she thought that he wanted to be noticed and that he could not bear that all the attention was focused on his wife. I thought she was too tough on him. We talked a lot about it with Laurent and we ended up telling ourselves that it was indeed his way of participating in this event that was going to change our lives.
To “console” him for these kilos which were piling up and which he was having difficulty bearing, I told him: “This is your way of preparing yourself to become a father. It’s pretty cool! ” In fact, we often laughed at this phenomenon: the day, for example, when we stood sideways in front of the mirror, to see who had the biggest belly … We were pretty much tied that day! Me, in fact, what worried me was not to lose after birth the 14 kg that I had gained during my pregnancy.
I also told myself that Laurent might not find the “chocolate bars” he was wearing… It is true that before I fell pregnant, Laurent did a lot of sport, and that there, gradually, he had given up all his sports activities. I can’t explain what was going on in his head. Maybe he was a little too anxious, too empathetic with me after all. Laurent was not very happy with this situation, he who had always been thin. But he didn’t want to bring himself to really diet, especially since he didn’t feel like he was overeating. He ended up getting used to it and even making fun of all these weird things that happened to him, to play down the drama. My mother made a mess of it! She did not find it normal for him to “physically” experience my pregnancy. She was starting to tell me that he had problems, that maybe he didn’t accept this child as well as he said, and things of that ilk. I, who am rather peaceful, one day I stopped my mother short and I told her very firmly not to get involved, that it was nothing, and that it only concerned Laurent and me. She was so surprised that I spoke to her this way that she immediately stopped thinking. Laurent’s buddies also “messed up” him, but without nastiness. As for my girlfriends, this situation amused them a lot, they had never seen it in someone else.
When Roxane was born, Laurent was by my side in the maternity ward, with his overweight and his intense joy. It was magical to see him with his big belly and his daughter in his arms. In the months that followed, against all odds, he quickly lost his pounds. For me, it took a lot longer: I took nearly ten before finding my line! This convent is a funny and rather moving memory for us. Today, we still laugh about it together. I wonder if the phenomenon will happen again if we have a second child. But that doesn’t worry me for the world and neither does Laurent. I always say that our little girl had the chance to “make herself” in our two bellies! And I think it’s an original proof of love that Laurent gave me. ”
Interview by Gisèle Ginsberg