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If passion in a relationship is replaced by apathy — does this mean that it’s time to leave? Not necessary. A decrease in libido can have many causes, from depression to mismatched work schedules.
1. Mismatch of rhythms
You go to bed at 10 pm and your partner at XNUMX am. It is clear that in such a situation it is very difficult to achieve synchronous operation of the sexual «clock».
Schedule time for sex. Try to arrange with your partner to go to bed at the same time at least a few days a week. Let it be something like a date under the cover of night. Feel free to create a romantic atmosphere — it will help you tune in. Experiment: on Wednesday — a game of strip cards, on Friday — a romantic dinner (dessert can be moved to the bedroom). Remember that habit does not mean routine.
2. Depresia
Problems in sex can arise due to a depressive state, when the vitality decreases and the usual activities cease to bring pleasure.
In addition, a decrease in libido can occur as a side effect of medication. If you are being treated for depression, ask your doctor for details about possible problems. Perhaps he will suggest that you choose a more gentle course, with an emphasis on psychotherapeutic work.
3. Hormonal fluctuations
Both female and male libido is subject to hormonal changes. In women, these differences are especially noticeable during pregnancy, breastfeeding, menopause.
A strict diet for a long time can also reduce sexual desire, since during this time the body does not receive enough fats, which are necessary to maintain natural hormone levels. Constant restriction of the diet also affects the mood.
Sex shouldn’t be uncomfortable. If you feel pain, then there is a problem.
In men, testosterone levels decrease with age, but this can happen prematurely due to chronic fatigue, excess weight, alcohol consumption, and a sedentary lifestyle. All this affects libido. Healthy food, regular exercise, and limiting alcohol can give you strength.
4. Probleme de sănătate
Many perceive problems in sex as something separate, separate from the general state of health. But problems like erectile dysfunction can be linked to heart failure and diabetes. If you notice signs of such a violation in yourself, this is an occasion to be examined.
Sex shouldn’t be uncomfortable. If you feel pain, then there is a problem. Consult with a specialist who can correctly determine the cause.
5. Plictiseala
If, instead of sex, “marital duty” appears in our lives, pleasure sooner or later will give way to indifference. How to avoid it? Rediscover what makes you happy. Remove rules and obligations. Instead of chasing a life-saving orgasm that can make you fall asleep, focus on foreplay. Allow yourself to move slowly and as far as you want right now. Follow your desire, go where it takes you.